We may be able to survive without friends, but we won’t be able to live.
This post gives three biblical reasons for us to make, keep, and develop Christian friendships.
1. Friends Keep us Honest
Proverbs 27:5-6 reads, “Better is an open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; profuse are the kisses of an enemy.”
Friends hold us accountable. They hold us accountable to God’s Word and they hold us accountable to our word. They make sure that we are obedient to God and obedient to ourselves.
We need friends that aren’t afraid to stand in our way. A true friend doesn’t always take our side.
A true friend holds us accountable and helps keep us honest.
2. Friends Keep us Standing
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 reads, “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!”
None of us are completely independent, sooner or later we will learn this truth.
Maybe we will get sick, maybe we will get injured, maybe we will get old; whatever the case may be, a friend will be there when we’re down. They will try and help us stand, but even if we can’t stand, they will stand in our place and fight for us in whatever battle we are facing.
True friends don’t just keep us accountable, but they keep us up.
3. Friends Keep us Joyful
The beginning of Romans 12:15 reads, “Rejoice with those who rejoice.”
One of the worst things that can happen to a person is having something to rejoice about and having nobody to rejoice with. Friends help keep us joyful by celebrating our lives with us, but that’s not all.
Our friends make our lives more joyful by keeping us honest. When we are obedient to God’s Word and our word, we have a more joyful relationship with God and more joyful relationships with others.
Our friends make our lives more joyful by keeping us standing. When we know that there is somebody there for us, we can live without fear. We can live without the fear of judgment, the fear of being abandoned, and the fear of helplessness.
How are your friendships?
Who are the people in our lives that hold us accountable? Who are the people in our lives that hold us up? Who are the people in our lives that give us joy?
Are these good descriptions of our friends? If not, we shouldn’t abandon our current friends, but maybe we should consider searching for friends that will be intentional in these ways.
Is there anybody that you would consider to be this type of friend? If there is, I’d encourage you to reach out to them and thank them for being there for you!